I have decided to tackle the frankly confusing topic of men and relationships because of a recent resolution that I made; yes I have decided to stay single for a year. This may sound rather dramatic and perhaps a tad peculiar but I have my reasons.
I am not going to start man bashing, this isn't 'Loose Women' and to be honest I have never been in a bad relationship it has usually just been a case of timing. So I have come to this decision based on the fact that I have not been properly single for around 5 years. A lot has changed in these years and I feel having just graduated that perhaps it is time to focus on my life rather than how I fit into someone elses.
It may sound a bit selfish but I think that in your early twenties with no responsibilities is the perfect time to be selfish.
I'm not adverse to the idea of dating over the year, I'm just not into the whole serious boyfriend/girlfriend thing. Personally I am more in the hanging out and having a laugh stage so the resolution is my way of not letting myself slip into something I am not ready for. Of course it is different for everyone, some of my best friends are in fantastic relationships and I couldn't be happier for them but I am just not at that point yet.
Men is a topic that comes up time and time again when talking with my friends, in fact I have just received a message from one asking how long they should leave before texting a guy back. The problem is the 'Rules', the unspoken law of meeting someone new. Of course you can't tell someone if you like them, don't be absurd, instead you must trick them into telling you how they feel first. God forbid that someone finds out that you fancy them, nope it is much more sensible to pretend you don't care. Where does it end though? Surely it would be a lot simpler if we actually said what we were thinking rather than orchestrating this extreme facade.
See I never really got the whole 'Game' thing, if I like a guy I will tell him because life is short, much too short to wonder why he only left one kiss at the end of his text instead of the usual two or why he is wearing that jumper that his ex gave him. A lot of the frustration that girls feel is the fact that they don't know where they stand,well if you ask directly then there is only one of two answers and it takes a lot less time.
I may revisit this subject in the future but for now this is my two cents.
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