Today we are going to discuss hiding from people. Sounds a bit odd but stay with me.
We have all had that really awkward moment where we have spotted someone we REALLY don't want to speak to; that lad you really shouldn't have kissed at the club last week, the friend you fell out with or the ridiculously gorgeous guy from the gym when you are not looking your best.
Now you could be the bigger person and say a breezy hello or my personal favourite which is pick from my below list of tried and tested (by me) avoidance options.
1. The phone call
Pretty self explanatory but pretending you are in the middle of a phone call is a classic avoidance technique. It also alludes to the illusion that you are rather popular. One tip though, make sure your phone will not ring during this time, you will look mental.
2. The stare through
You've clocked them, they are five steps away and there is no getting away from this one. So what do you do; you pretend you are in such a deep state of focus that you are actually looking through them. They are no longer a person but an obstacle that you need to get around. Top tip: try to furrow your brow intensely like you are thinking of something super important, it's impressive.
3. The "Oh I'm so silly"
Now this one takes a bit of acting, a GCSE in drama is preferred for this option. It involves spotting the person, quickly looking in your bag or at your phone and rolling your eyes, or for the more melodramatic placing your palm on your forehead in mock horror giving the impression that you have forgotten something. Next turn around and walk in the opposite direction....quickly.
4. The lookout
This is my personal favourite and I have used it exactly three times, mostly because it is the most fun. It involves throwing yourself behind the nearest wall/door/DVD display......I've shared too much. Stay in your preferred hideout until the person has passed. You get ten extra points if someone spots you using 'the lookout'!
So that is my guide to hiding from people you want to avoid. You are welcome!
Tuesday, 30 April 2013
Sunday, 28 April 2013
Escape the rut!
Today I am going to write a post on something that I have experienced a few times in my life and that is getting stuck in a rut.
There are many forms that the rut takes and they can present themselves in almost all aspects of life. Like me you may have recently been experiencing the 'MEGA RUT' which spans so many different genres of rut that you can't seem to distinguish between the different days because they are all the same!
Oh and the worst part of being stuck in a rut....you usually don't even realise you are in one until something brings it sharply to your attention. So have a think, when was the last time you did something out of the ordinary? When was the last time you did something completely new? When was the last time you actually shocked yourself?
As I thought more and more about this topic the answer suddenly dawned on me, the reason so many of us fall in into the mundane is a lack of confidence. The confidence to be brave and step outside of our comfort zone, speak up for ourselves and fight for what we want from life rather than accepting what we are given.
I have compiled a list of the three most common ruts and my suggested antidote for kicking them to the curb.
Fashion & Beauty
Now this is one that I am currently trying to dig myself out of. On average I read at least 2 fashion magazines a week, numerous fashion blogs and am constantly spotting amazing style on the streets of Cardiff that I absolutely love, but yet I wear pretty much the same clothes every week. My standard work attire is jeans, black boots and a jumper every day and the funny thing is I have a wardrobe full of amazing dresses, short suits and pencil skirts. So why is this?
Well there is something you should know about me, although it may not seem it I am quite shy. Drawing attention to myself is not something that I relish in. You will not find a single selfie on my Twitter or Facebook feeds and if someone compliments me I go a strange crimson colour.
I learnt a while ago that if you act like you are confident and know what you are talking about then it doesn't matter how you actually feel because no one will ever realise that you are inwardly cringing.
In conclusion, my antidote to the fashion rut is to have the confidence to try out new things and develop your own individuality. Who cares if you get it wrong and look like a mixture of Ke$ha and Helena Bonham Carter, everyone will have forgotten by the next day anyway!
Relationships
"Oh no we can't come out, Friday is takeaway and Eastenders night." STOP RIGHT THERE! These words should never be uttered (and not just because Eastenders is pants.) You are two separate people with two separate personalities, breaking a routine with new experiences are what makes you grow as an individual and as couple.
Don't bumble along in a relationship that you aren't happy in as each anniversary passes you by, speak up and work through it or if you can't then move on. Oh and never cry over someone that wouldn't cry over you (wise words from my aunty!)
Work
I liken work to a roundabout; life goes past so fast that you only realise where you are when you stop. Often we start a job with no real aim or direction hoping that we may stumble into our perfect job, I've got bad news for you, this is supremely rare. Most of us have to work our butts off to get where we want to go.
If you aren't in your dream career, think carefully what it would be. Take night classes and contact people asking them how they got their job. Persistence is the key, never stop knocking on those doors because you never know where one might lead to.
By no means do I have all the answers but what I am trying to say is that life is far too short to put up with things, you may not suddenly get your perfect life but knowing that you are working towards it will help you escape that rut!
There are many forms that the rut takes and they can present themselves in almost all aspects of life. Like me you may have recently been experiencing the 'MEGA RUT' which spans so many different genres of rut that you can't seem to distinguish between the different days because they are all the same!
Oh and the worst part of being stuck in a rut....you usually don't even realise you are in one until something brings it sharply to your attention. So have a think, when was the last time you did something out of the ordinary? When was the last time you did something completely new? When was the last time you actually shocked yourself?
As I thought more and more about this topic the answer suddenly dawned on me, the reason so many of us fall in into the mundane is a lack of confidence. The confidence to be brave and step outside of our comfort zone, speak up for ourselves and fight for what we want from life rather than accepting what we are given.
I have compiled a list of the three most common ruts and my suggested antidote for kicking them to the curb.
Fashion & Beauty
Now this is one that I am currently trying to dig myself out of. On average I read at least 2 fashion magazines a week, numerous fashion blogs and am constantly spotting amazing style on the streets of Cardiff that I absolutely love, but yet I wear pretty much the same clothes every week. My standard work attire is jeans, black boots and a jumper every day and the funny thing is I have a wardrobe full of amazing dresses, short suits and pencil skirts. So why is this?
Well there is something you should know about me, although it may not seem it I am quite shy. Drawing attention to myself is not something that I relish in. You will not find a single selfie on my Twitter or Facebook feeds and if someone compliments me I go a strange crimson colour.
I learnt a while ago that if you act like you are confident and know what you are talking about then it doesn't matter how you actually feel because no one will ever realise that you are inwardly cringing.
In conclusion, my antidote to the fashion rut is to have the confidence to try out new things and develop your own individuality. Who cares if you get it wrong and look like a mixture of Ke$ha and Helena Bonham Carter, everyone will have forgotten by the next day anyway!
Relationships
"Oh no we can't come out, Friday is takeaway and Eastenders night." STOP RIGHT THERE! These words should never be uttered (and not just because Eastenders is pants.) You are two separate people with two separate personalities, breaking a routine with new experiences are what makes you grow as an individual and as couple.
Don't bumble along in a relationship that you aren't happy in as each anniversary passes you by, speak up and work through it or if you can't then move on. Oh and never cry over someone that wouldn't cry over you (wise words from my aunty!)
Work
I liken work to a roundabout; life goes past so fast that you only realise where you are when you stop. Often we start a job with no real aim or direction hoping that we may stumble into our perfect job, I've got bad news for you, this is supremely rare. Most of us have to work our butts off to get where we want to go.
If you aren't in your dream career, think carefully what it would be. Take night classes and contact people asking them how they got their job. Persistence is the key, never stop knocking on those doors because you never know where one might lead to.
By no means do I have all the answers but what I am trying to say is that life is far too short to put up with things, you may not suddenly get your perfect life but knowing that you are working towards it will help you escape that rut!
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